How to Tame Your Anger

How to Tame Anger

You might  be surprised at how common it is to have a problem with anger.

Can you relate to any of these?

A) You snap with spite. Fiery emotion seems to come out of nowhere like an alien from within. You are fine one moment, possessed the next. And you hate this aspect of yourself.

B) You don’t show your anger often…but it’s there. The odd raging outburst when you get drunk, or an aggressive attack on an inanimate object. It’s scary to be a non-violent person transformed into one who kicks or throws something out of anger.

C)  You wouldn’t say your problem is anger exactly. What pains you is more like a constant simmering frustration or boredom – this is a close relative of anger.

D) Your anger bypasses most other people and is directed inward, as a form of depression or self-loathing.

If you can relate to any of the above, you probably wish it could be different. You wonder what better anger management might look like, but you find it hard to believe that you can change. You’ve probably tried to change it, stop it, control it because of the consequences it has on others and yourself…but so far you’ve been unsuccessful. You may not think you can change it. But, regardless of your doubts…

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Wish You Could See A Demo Of Therapy In Action?

Wish you could see a demo of therapy in action?

Therapy is hardly an exact science. You can make goals and predictions and work towards them but it is not straightforward.

Therapy works. But no matter the leaps and bounds in neuroscience over the past couple of decades, it is still challenging to explain it in a simple and compelling way.

Whether you are a fan or not, you can see why The Biggest Loser is compelling viewing. The workouts, the pain, the eating, the emotions, the drastic change in body shape right before your eyes. If only therapeutic gains could somehow be demonstrated in the same way that weight loss can. Read more…

How People End Up Getting Counselling – 4 Common Triggers

Maybe a friend suggests you get some counselling or therapy. In the end though, that’s not usually what makes you go. Or not on its own.

Thinking about seeing a counsellor and actually making an appointment are very different things. Weeks, months or years can separate the two.

The final triggers that lead people to see a therapist generally fall into four categories. Of course they may overlap but each is quite distinct.

How people end up getting counselling - 4 common triggers

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3 Quick Response Tools to Help Manage Stress, Anxiety & Strong Emotions

We all experience moments of overwhelming emotion or panic. Some of us, more often than we’d like. And possibly without having any tools ready to help manage such situations. Your heart is racing, you have an urge to yell and swing at someone, to run and hide, or perhaps you feel completely frozen.

It is not uncommon in this predicament to flee the scene. That might mean getting off the bus as soon as possible or excusing yourself from a meeting – maybe you try some self-talk, distraction or an urgent call to a friend. In the case of a first-timer experiencing a panic attack, it may well involve a trip to the hospital for fear of a heart attack.

Most likely the reality of your situation doesn’t warrant the panic or rage you’re experiencing. Your brain and body are primed for survival unnecessarily! But it feels like an unstoppable chain reaction.

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